Interacting with others is a delicate dance of emotions, understanding, and boundaries. But sometimes, we may unknowingly push people away with our behaviors. Here are some common annoying habits and tips on how to address them:
1) You Always Have to Be Right
Some people feel the need to win every argument, often through intimidation or overwhelming verbal attacks. If you act like this, you will likely be seen as an emotional bully and fail to form deep, meaningful relationships. If this sounds like you and you want to change, practice acknowledging others’ victories and showing good sportsmanship. Remember, “Be humble in victory. Be humble in defeat.”
2) You Refuse to Show Empathy and Compassion
Empathy and compassion are about understanding, not solving, others’ problems. If you struggle to step into someone else’s shoes, it will look like you lack insight or care. To improve, regularly ask others how they are and truly listen to their responses.
3) You Overstep Boundaries
Respect others’ personal space, time, and emotional boundaries. Overstepping these limits signals a lack of consideration. Always ask for permission rather than assuming it’s okay to cross someone’s boundaries.
4) You Dominate Conversations
If you do most of the talking, you send a message that other people’s opinions aren’t important. People want to feel heard and valued. Aim to speak only half the time in any conversation, giving others a chance to share and actively listening when they do.
5) Everything Is Negative
If you constantly talk about problems, complaints, or pessimistic views, those around you may start to feel drained. Balance your conversations by sharing one positive thing for every negative thought.
6) You’re Dishonest
Trust is built on honesty. Even small lies can erode trust over time. Be truthful, even when it’s uncomfortable to build deeper connections and earn genuine respect from others.
7) You Don’t Keep Your Word
While occasional cancellations are understandable, when you consistently break commitments, you are showing that you are unreliable. Over-committing and under-delivering destroy trust. Think carefully before making promises and only commit to what you can realistically achieve.
8) You Find Fault with Everything and Everyone
Constructive criticism is valuable, but constant criticism can take an emotional toll. Before criticizing, consider if it’s necessary, helpful, and kind. Not every situation requires your input.
Mark Webb is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice at Oakwood Counseling Center in Valdosta. He is the author of How To Be A Great Partner and How To Argueproof Your Relationship.
