Mark Webb, L.M.F.T. specializes in Marriage and Relationship Counseling, he is the top-selling author of "How To Be A Great Partner" and "How To Argueproof Your Relationship". As well as the developer of "Partner Focused Relationship Systems".
Have you and your spouse stopped talking to each other? Do you constantly argue and bicker? Have you stopped trusting each other with your feelings and inner most thoughts? Here are 10 techniques on how to fall back in love with your spouse:
“Thinking of you keeps me awake. Dreaming of you keeps me asleep. Being with you keeps me alive.” ~ Author Unknown 1. Be An Active Listener. Brendan Francis is quoted as saying that “A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.” I believe this goes both ways. It is rare to find a truly active listener. If you want to convey the message that you love your partner, then develop great listening skills. Lean slightly forward to show interest. Uncross your arms to show openness to what they are saying. Maintain a kind and thoughtful eye contact to let them know that you are engaged and trying to understanding. Pretty simple stuff, but very few do these. 2. Show Public Affection. I don’t mean big smooches but I do encourage holding hands and putting your arm around your partner. Be unashamed of your love for your partner. 3. Stand By Them In Support. Never allow anyone to speak badly of your partner. Be their biggest cheerleader and their ride or die advocate. (I know some of you are concerned if you are involved with someone who has narcissistic personality traits. Use common sense if you are involved with an emotional vampire.) 4. Text Them Sweet Messages. It takes seconds to make your partner feel special. I particularly like Bitmojis as opposed to emojis. These make the messages more playful and personal. Go to your app store on your phone if you don’t know what I’m talking about. 5. Put Your Phone Down. This has become a common complaint in my office. I truly appreciate the power of a cellphone but don’t let your cellphone become a wedge between you and your partner. 6. Take Time To Ask Them How They Are Doing Then Really Listen To Them. This sounds simple enough but it is so easy to get caught up in the routine of your day that you forget to really connect with your partner. Be specific versus general. Ask “How is your project going with the ABC account?” instead of always asking, “How was your day?” This shows that you care about what is going on in their life. 7. Make Time For Them. Let your partner know that you care about them and want to spend time with them. Never treat your partner as an afterthought or an obligation. A healthy relationship gives each person room to pursue their interests while also creating time for each other. “A life lived in love will never be dull.” ~ Leo Buscaglia 8. Be There In The Tough Times. Elizabeth Gilbert said “I’m here. I love you. I don’t care if you need to stay up crying all night long, I will stay with you. There’s nothing you can ever do to lose my love. I will protect you until you die, and after your death I will still protect you. I am stronger than depression and I am braver than loneliness and nothing will ever exhaust me.” Reread this quote and vow to be this kind of partner. 9. Do Extra And Unexpected Acts Of Kindness. I remember early in my relationship with my wife when we were dating; She came over to my home and put up and fully decorated a Christmas tree for me to share with my kids. Wow! Strive to follow her example and look for ways to make powerful statements of love. 10. Always Do These Basics. Be appreciative enough to say, “Thank you.” Be vulnerable enough to say, “I’m sorry.” And deep enough to say, “I love you.” 11. Practice My 80/20 Rule. As long as your partner is doing right 80% of the time; let 20% slide. Don’t be a nitpicker or a faultfinder. 12. Do Something They Like To Do. Francis David said “We need not think alike to love alike.” Be willing to go outside of your comfort zone for the sake of your partner. Be willing to travel to new places and do new activities. You most likely will enjoy a richer level of connection with your partner as well as develop a larger comfort zone by simply saying “yes” to new things. 13. Do Your Best Not To Be Argumentative. Be careful not to allow room for the storing up of resentment. Be slow to become defensive or hostile. Strive to demonstrate a sense of approachability and a patient willingness to understand. 14. Appreciate Their Quirks. Make a conscious effort to like the things that make them special and unique. “To be your friend was all I ever wanted; to be your lover was all I ever dreamed.” ~ Valerie Lombardo
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Here Is What People Are Saying About Mark Webb:
“Mark is a genuinely caring, knowledgeable counselor. He is a no nonsense guy that cuts right through the dribble and gets right to the truth of the problem.”
~ Mary Brown
“Mark is an accomplished and good man. Not only does he have a great educational background but he has also developed principles which he has put into practice in his own life. He has a sharing and caring heart and is eager to pass on what he has learned with anyone who needs it. If you have unmet goals, goals you are striving toward, need a boost in enthusiasm, or want to grow your relationships (or virtually anything else) then Mark is the man. He has been a great help to me and I know his articles and videos will help you.”
~ Esther Wright
“In a world of stress, anxiety and challenges, it is so easy to look
to the negative and not the positive in life. Mark is truly a positive directional professional that will guide you to find and become the Great that you have within. No matter who you are or how successful you are, everyone needs a Mark Webb in their life as a reminder that life without exception is an amazing journey. Live it well.”
~ Steve Kampouroglou
“Thank you Mark for all of your encouraging words to help me become a better person and wife!”
~ Lea Ellis
“I have had the pleasure of working alongside Mark Webb as a professional colleague for more years than either of us can recall. As others have stated, he is truly professional, but even more than that, he truly CARES about the people who come to him for help and guidance. Mark is a rare individual known for his integrity and for his passion to help others improve their lives. He has a God-given talent for his profession, and he has used those skills to help countless others through the challenges that all of us face at various times.”
~ David Kowkabany
“I have referred clients to Mark Webb for more than 20 years. EVERY SINGLE CLIENT has been satisfied and happy they used him. Mark is an incredible therapist, he understands the depth of people’s problems and has an endless bank off solutions to offer. He is wonderful to talk to and I personally enjoy his company! I highly recommend Mark Webb.”
~ Sam Dennis
“I used Mark as our marriage counselor years ago. Unfortunately I didn't listen well back then and my marriage didn't survive yet now I greatly appreciate his wisdom. I am still friends with my ex and probably better friends now. Mark has a unique insight into what it takes to keep a relationship strong and keep the romance alive. Many men like me tend to forget what got the girl and wonder why things aren't the same. Men tend to look at it as a task completed when it's just beginning. I highly recommend Mark to any couple that may find the home fires dwindling. In hindsight it's actually pretty basic yet we
have to always remember we are different creatures with different needs and if we remain cognizant of that marriage can be very rewarding and fulfilling.”
~ Steve Bartlett
“Mark Webb is a true professional who cares about the people
he works with. His wisdom and insight are invaluable. He has a talent to get to the heart of the matter to help you focus on building better relationships with yourself and your loved ones.”
~ Lisa Piper
“Mark is amazing! He has a very unique approach and has helped my husband and I tremendously. He gave us the tools for a great marriage! I would highly recommend him for couples therapy.”
~ Iva Richmond
“Mr. Webb is down to earth & has a no nonsense approach to counseling that yields results.”
~ Darren Rackley
“I've read so many relationship books over the years that they really blur together. I picked this one up on a recommendation and am thoroughly impressed. Mark Webb's easy-to-follow, easy-to-implement program has proven insightful in my own relationship, and we've found a lot to discuss as we apply the principles. If you've read Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages, some of the concepts will sound familiar. Mr. Webb does a great job of making them more practical (and less preachy) than Dr Chapman.
Whether you';re beginning a relationship or well into one, I think
you'll find a lot of value in this work.”
~ Rich Washington
“Mark Webb uses clear language and easy-to-follow, step-by-step guidelines that simultaneously offer attainable goals while holding one accountable for his or her actions in a relationship. Webb isn't interested in finding middle ground or splitting differences. Rather, he makes it possible for partners to give their relationships the full 100%. Those who undertake Webb's system can likewise expect more rewarding results than, say, winning more arguments or evenly splitting chores.”
~ James Roberts
“Mark Webb is BY FAR the best therapist I have ever met. My husband and I have seen him for help and he is the best thing that ever happened to us. He is not just another therapist, he's original, blunt, very articulate, down to earth and even better, he knows what he's talking about! He's been there too and writes from his own experience. If your relationship is failing and you want to give it one last shot, read anything this guy has written!!! Trust me!”
~ Lauren Snyder
“I love Mark Webb's technique. It's not frilly nor harsh but direct and concise. His highly effective method gives nearly immediate, satisfying results.”
~ Erin Garner
“I simply did what Mark Webb told me to do and it
worked. His techniques worked a whole lot better than
what I had been doing and it took a lot less energy. Mark Webb saved my marriage.”
~ Todd Burrows
“He truly is The Relationship Specialist. As soon as I
started applying his simple techniques, my wife quickly
realized that I finally “got it”. It was a short time later
that we were better than we had actually ever been.”
~ Phil Hightower
“I was definitely taking the wrong approach. I was
making things worse instead of better. Mark got me on
the right path quickly. We are doing great now and we
hardly ever argue now.”
~ Michelle Michaels
“Mark Webb was able to explain the same things I was
trying to say to my husband in a way that my husband
was able to hear without getting defensive. I no longer
worry about my husband making the same mistakes
again. I am so grateful for Mark Webb’s teachings.”
~ Allison Stephens
“My wife and I had tried other therapists and programs.
All they did was reinforce the guilt and shame that we
were already feeling. Mark Webb’s system empowered
us to move forward. He doesn’t believe you have to go
backward in order to move forward.”
~ Jonathon Phillips
“Mark Webb’s techniques empowered me to with
confidence to boldly make the changes I needed to make”
~ Stephanie Brooks
“Mark is a very competent and highly insightful
relationship therapist both at his brick and mortar location
and at his virtual (Facebook) online resources . His accuracy
of ability to access and identify personal
communication / marriage relationship issues have helped
me understand my strengths and weaknesses. He gives
positive pertinent feedback and straightforward criticism,
which has allowed me to be a better communicator and partner.”
~ Russell Mcleod
“Mark is amazing to talk to! He not only helps me
individually but also my husband and I. He has a
wonderful way of listening and helping you through all
sorts of life events. He was never judgmental about
anything and always made sure you felt comfortable and
at ease talking. I would HIGHLY recommend him to not
only individuals but couples as well!!”
~ Candace Wade
“Mark is unlike any therapist I’ve ever met. I consider
him more of a life/marriage “coach.” Mark does more
than just listen to you. He offers strategies and practices
that help make you an all-around better person. Thus,
improving your relationships with others.
Several years ago I was in need of professional Christian
advice for myself & to help family members with a family
situation. Mark was so kind & professional but also “to
the point” on what we all had to do. I was so appreciative
of his help then and now to be able to get his advice in his
videos and article posts is awesome!!
Thanks, Mark”
~ Chris Bremer
“Mark Webb is the best in the business. He is an
outspoken Christian counselor with an amazing gift of
relationship building. He gives real world therapy and
teaches how to do real world work on relationships. His
style is one that will always show results for those willing
to do the work. Also, as a counselor myself, I consider
Mark to be a mentor and continuous source of influence
in my life, personally and professionally.”
~ Brack Deloach
“Mark is incredible! He knew and understood why my
husband and I were there right away with us saying very
little. He is truly awesome.”
~ Stephanie Kimbro
“Mark is a caring therapist that helps you understand
whatever issue you may be encountering, and has
fantastic strategies to help you through the issue. Highly
recommend!”
~ Mike Mason
“I was reluctant to seek therapy from a man as I have a
long history of trust issues. My friends kept telling me
that he is the best at what he does so I decided to give
therapy a chance. Mark Webb disarmed my fears within
the first few minutes of the first session. He taught me
how to empower myself and my marriage through his
coaching and his example. He basically taught me how to
turn my life and my marriage around and my husband
never attended a session except for one time to thank Mr.
Webb. Mark Webb walks his own talk and he never gives
advice that he hasn’t already tried himself. He sets high
standards for his own life and is constantly striving to
improve himself. I highly recommend him.”
~ Grace Scott
“Mark Webb is the real deal! He tells you what you
NEED to hear, not what you WANT to hear!
Mark Webb has played an instrumental part in turning my
life around. I have gone from not wanting to live to living
my best life. When he showed me how to look at things
from a different perspective and everything was not as big
or as bad as I believed, my way of thinking and my life
changed. It hasn’t always been easy but the tools,
resources and the confidence he gave me kept me pushing
through. I looked forward to our meetings because when I
left I felt like I could do anything. If you want the best
experience and someone who really gets it and is real
Check Out Mark Webb!!”
~ Christie Rhodes
“Mark Webb's passion for his career cannot be hidden. I
am a single Mother who wanted to learn how to be more
positive. His words have been invigorating to my life! He
once said "It takes just as much energy and time to be
positive as it does to be negative. So chose Positivity". I
believe his insight of a marriage is conducive for all types
of relationships as well. Not only does his words of
wisdom motivate and counsel me but they are also in line
with my bibical beliefs. Thanks for all that you do!”
~ S. Hughes
“Mark Webb is an amazing counselor. He has changed
the way we look at our life, not just our marriage. Highly
recommend him for any couples that need help with
issues.”
~ Robert Taylor
“Mark Webb has given me such awesome advice that
really helped me through a hard time. I really recommend
contacting him for marriage, family, or individual
counseling. I have purchased both of his books and have
found great insight and advice in them as well!”
~ Loriann Brown
“For years, Mark has not only given myself but listeners
on my morning radio show great advice. He talks directly
about the issues to help one understand the situation, plan
with step by step advice with real direction and follow up
that is not only helpful but easy to understand to use in
today's world. When Mark is on my show, he gives my
listeners practical, down to earth advice on life and
relationships that always have them requesting him back.
Mark is a very professional, humorous and really cares for
his clients.”
~ Shotgun Charlie Walker
“Mark Webb gives amazing advice! I was in a horrible
place in my life and he helped me see the positive! His
advice and positive guidance gave me the strength I
needed to face major changes in my life!”
~ Mary Catherine Hart
“Mark Webb is compassionate and devoted to helping
others and can always identify the roots of issues. He is
relentless at helping you work through them. His advice is
always useful, and he does a wonderful job of guiding
you through whatever problems you might face. He is
truly there every step of the way, and I am so thankful for him.
~ Marshall Peacock
“Mark Webb is very dedicated, knowledgeable,
understanding an always willing to go the extra mile to
help someone.”
~ Janet Horn
“Hands down the best in the business in my personal
opinion !! Feels like your talking to an old friend when
you’re in his office!! Very helpful on many topics and any
topic that is up for discussion!! Highly recommend his
services to anyone needing his expertise!!”
~ Greg Brown
“Mark is a different kind of therapist than what we have
come to expect. He doesn't sit quietly in his chair with a
clipboard, nodding his head yet contributing very little.
He gives his opinions on what you share with him. He's
very proactive. I also like that he shoots straight with his
opinions and advice. He's not there to stroke your ego and
be your "yes" man like your buddies are. When my
husband decided he wanted a divorce after 25 years of
marriage, I was a walking zombie. Someone said to call
Mark's office. They got me in immediately, and it was the
best thing that ever happened to me. I am so grateful for
Mark's help. I strongly believe that I am a better, stronger
person because of him.”
~ Susan Upchurch Phillips
I used Mark years ago as a marriage counselor and after
that as a confidant. Lots of his marriage advice carries
over into the workplace and business relationships. It's
hard to find a more rounded person that will listen to your
needs and give quality sound advice! He is a great person
to call a friend.”
~ M. Howell
“Mark Webb is one of the finest marriage and relationship
counselors I have encountered. He gives honest Christian
advice in a down to earth presentation. Mark has a great
personality and I consider him a friend. He is a positive
guidance in my life. I highly recommend him.”
~ Brenda Thomas
“Mark has been an instrumental part of bringing health
and healing to my marriage and family. I appreciate his
candor approach as a therapist. I respect his professionalism as a therapist, and I consider him to be a friend for over 30 years.”
~ Bishop Dr. Henry R. Williams
“Mark Webb is a very knowledgeable and experienced
therapist. Personally, he helped me through a very
difficult time when I was ending a marriage that did not
need saving. I will forever be indebted.”
~ Jennifer Cribb
“My relationship has grown so much over the past few
visits with Mark. I would recommend him to anyone, no
matter how big or small the issue may seem. He has a
way of helping you open up and see areas you never
thought may be a concern. Mark will walk with you and
guide you, because he genuinely cares about you as a
person. I could not imagine where I would be today, if he
had not reached out and listened and providing me with
guidance. I would consider Mark a friend, rather than a
therapist.”
~ John Matthews
“I've known Mark for almost a decade! He was a
tremendous help for me individually when I was a stale
point in my career which was taking its toll on my
personal life. He helped me identify with my uniqueness
and my personality type and that of my partner's so I
could better navigate ups and downs of daily life and then
he also helped me identify what I was seeking in my
career and coached me on the power of positive thinking
and ways to make it happen for myself!
I love how he shares personal stories and paints vivid
pictures to help you understand. Highly recommend him!
And he's so honest so if he can't help you or knows a
better fit to get you what you're seeking, he'll tell you!”
~ Erica Detweller
“My relationship did not work out but Mark helped me
feel like I gave it my best shot and I now realize that
things have worked out for the best. I am now in a
healthy relationship and I have the right skills to make
sure I don’t make the same mistakes.”
~ Paul Ferguson
“I’ve had other therapists. Most of them just sat there and
listened to me but would not interact with me. Mark
listens but also inquiries about various issues in my life.
And he is good about remembering the things we’ve
talked about in previous session.”
~ Tristan Greenway
“I always feel like Mark cares about me and that he truly
listens, understands and doesn’t judge.”
~ Barbara Hansen
“I like that it isn’t always about talking about your
feelings. Mark taught me the skills I needed to work
through my problems.”
~ Robert Hamilton
“Mark Webb uses good common sense information
and strategies.”
~ Troy Murphy
“From the first session, I felt like Mr. Webb understood
where I was coming from and was able to build a plan for
showing me and my husband how to stop our constant
bickering.”
~ Nicole Warren
“Mark Webb saves marriages!!! We were in a very dark
place... Mark dug us up, dusted us off, and helped us find
our happy again after many years of unhealthy struggles.
Mark Webb is a god send to anyone suffering in an
unhealthy marriage, but is looking to rekindle a love, and
wanting to find their lover, their best friend, and their
support person again...... If you’re looking for someone is
real, to the point, and an all-around great guy.... He’s your
therapist!!”
~ Joelyn M.
“Mark Webb helped my husband and I in recent years when we were going through a tough times. We had been arguing daily and were on the verge of divorce. We were both ready to throw our hands up after 7 years of marriage. My husband didn't want to go to therapy. He didn't want some man to tell him how he should be running his life. Mark has a way of making therapy and change feel comfortable and natural. He was able to explain the changes we needed to make in a clear and precise manner. We quickly got better and have been since.”